Questionaire for the upcoming book by Ilona Selke "Let's Talk about It"
My name is Ilona Selke,(www.ilonaselke.com andwww.bali-shangrila.com)author, musician and international seminarteacher in the area ofpersonal growth and spirituality, and owner of thespiritual retreatcenter called Shangri-La, on the North Shore of Bali.

In seminars and many private sessions and conversations I have foundthatthere is a riches in sexuality and intimacy, that is available toagingmen and women, and yet the material in the media about sexualitypastmenopause is sparse, usually only relates to the physical aspects,and itdoes not take into account that baby boomers expect to beyouthful forever.

Faced with facts and fictions, myths and hopes I would like togatherhonest sharing, challenges, workarounds and inspiring solutionsfor allof us who wish to experience an increased ability in sharing ourcoreessence.

This questionnaire is designed to help gather and then shareinformationabout how sexuality is evolving at this day and age for womenover theage of 50.

Please do indicate your gender in this questionnaire as I will alsogivethis to some men in this age bracket.

More and more baby boomers are coming of age, baby boomers who grew upinan era that idealized youth, and is trying to stretch the envelope.

Myths abound as to how sexuality should be between women and men, evenintheir golden years.

As the baby boomers were a formidable youthful force, that shapedthebeliefs of our current culture, a post war youth thatrevolutionizedsexuality, that made Tantra a household word, (at leastin a certainquadrant of our culture) and a group that is attempting toextend itsyouthfulness into the ripe old age, we need now more than everfor thebaby boomers to show and tell how it is to grow older, and how itisaffecting our sexuality, what is still possible, what may not beasfeasible, what the powerful lessons of an open-minded sexualityhasbrought us, and what wisdom we can impart on those that arecomingbehind us.

It's time we did a reality check, and shared our wisdom between usandfor generations behind us. This may well be the first generationthathas dared to speak about sexuality past its prime, openly and honestly.

I would love to invite you to share as openly and honestly asispossible, how sexuality is for you. Now, what intimacy means atthisstage in your life, what is the most fulfilling to you, and givetips,hints, or honest sharing, that could help the many other women andmen,who are also entering their golden years.
GENDER:
GESCHLECHT:
AGE:
ALTER:
Let's get started and let us know a little bit ABOUT YOU:
Lass uns anfangen und erzähl ein bisschen ÜBER DICH:

Short description of your relationship background:
(i.e.: married, once or twice etc., still or again single, divorced, widowed, dating, etc.)
Beschreibe kurz: den Status Deiner Beziehung/gen, Deinen Erfahrungen im Leben......zu deiner Beziehungen Erfahrung im Leben: (verheiratet, einmal oder zweimal oder mehrere Male, alleinstehend oder wieder allein stehen, geschieden, verwitwet, serielle Monogamie von jeweils xxx Jahren et cetera)
Previous or current occupation:
Beschreibe kur deinem beruflichen Background:
What was/ were your most memorable sexual experience/s in your life?
Beschreibe deine erfüllendsten Erfahrungen in deinem sexuellen/erotischen/außersinnlchen Liebesleben in deinem Leben?
What was the quality in your intimate encounters that satisfied you the most?
Welche Qualität hat dich besonders in deinen intimen Begegnungen befriedigt?
How has sexuality evolved over the years and how has it changed past your- or your partnerä´s menopausal time period?
Wie hat sich deine Sexualität über die Jahre und Entfaltung bei dir in deinem Leben entwickelt, und wie hat es sich aufgrund der Wechseljahre bei dir - oder deinem Partner verändert?
What are the rewards of being past menopause?
Welche positiven Aspekte gehören für dich zu den Wechseljahren?
What are your-or your partner´s sexual challenges? (Libido and drive, vaginal sensitivity, energy, feeling stimulated and attracted, being jaded, etc.)

Was sind deine oder waren deine/ oder die deines Partner´s sexuellen Herausforderungen? (Libido und sexuellen Antrieb, vaginale Sensibilität, vaginale Trockenheit, Energiemangel, sich angezogen fühlen, schon jenseits von gut und böse sich zu fühlen et cetera)
What is it that you would like more of in your love life? This can be physical, emotional, or spiritual in nature.

Was würdest du gerne in deinem Liebesleben mehr erleben? Dieses kann physisch, emotional, oder spirituell sein.
How often do you engage sexually on a weekly, monthly or yearly basis?

Wie oft bist du sexuel in deinem Leben zurzeit aktiv, wöchtenlich, monatlich, oder jährlich?
Has the quality of your orgasm changed?
Hat sich die Qualität, die Intensität, oder Art und Weise deines Orgasmusgefühls nach den Wechseljahren verändert?
THEN and NOW: When you are erotic and/or sexual with a partner at this stage in your life:
DAMALS und JETZT: Wenn du dich jetzt mit einem Partner erotisch und/oder sexuell verbindest…..

How is it different from when we you were younger?
Gibt es einen Unterschied zu der Zeit als du jünger warst?
How has your ability to feel connected and your ability to interpenetrate each other evolved?

Wie hat sich deine Fähigkeit dich mit deinem Partner verbunden,und vereint zu fühlen und ineinander zu gehen über die Jahre deines Leben bis jetzt entwickelt?
What are the challenges now that you didn't have when you or your partner were younger?
Was sind jetzt die sexuellen, körperlichen, emotionalen Herausforderungen, die du nicht hattest, als du jünger warst?
Are there any benefits that you didn't have when you were younger, such as in the form of self-confidence, assurance, self-awareness, more knowledge, more abilities in the realms of the subtler dimensions?

Gibt es positive Auswirkungen, bzw. Fähigkeiten, die du nicht hattest als du jünger warst,, wie zum Beispiel mehr Selbstbewusstsein, Sicherheit, größeres Bewusstsein, mehr wissen, größere Fähigkeiten in dem Bereich der subtilen Dimensionen?
INTIMACY:
NÄHE & EROTIK
What type of intimacy, erotic exchange, or ways of being sexual, have you experimented with, that deeply satisfied you?
Welche Art von Nähe, von erotischem Austausch, oder Arten und Weisen des sexuellen Zusammenseins hast du in deinem Leben erlebt, welche dich tief zufrieden gestellt haben?
When do you feel most intimate mit d/einem Partner?
Wann hast du dich am größten innigsten mit deinem Partner gefühlt?
How and when do you experience UNION, the DIVINE, SURRENDER, MERGING into ONENESS:

Wie und wann erfährst du VEREINIGUNG, das GÖTTLICHE, HINGABE, VEREINIGUNG in die EINHEIT:
AGE of PARTNERS:
Are you sexual with much younger partners? Do you prefer same aged sexual partners? Do you prefer to be sexual with older partners?
ALTER des PARTNER:
Bist du jetzt mit jüngeren Partnern zusammen? Bevorzugt du gleichaltrige Partner? Bevorzugt du ältere Partner?
WISDOM to be SHARED:
Looking back on the full of wisdom that you've gathered in regards to love, sex and eroticism, what are some of the most important and crucial elements you would like to share with other women.
WEISHEIT:
Wenn du jetzt zurück auf all das schaust, was du in deinen Lebensjahren an Weisheit in Bezug auf Liebe, Sex und Erotik dazu gewonnen hast, welche wichtigen Elemente würdest du gerne mit anderen Frauen teilen?
What false illusions and hopes, or greater abilities have you discovered, in regards to sexuality and aging, which nobody ever told you about before?
Welche falschen Vorstellung, Hoffnungen oder größere Fähigkeiten hast du in dir entdeckt in Bezug auf Sexualität und dem Älterwerden,worüber man dir früher nichts gesagt hatte?
Have you discovered ways off being intimate or feeling satisfied, that could work even when the body doesn't anymore?

Welche Arten und Weisen der Sexualität, der Nähe, oder Erfüllung hat du entdeckt, die auch dann noch funktionieren, wenn der Körper schon nicht mehr so mitmacht.
Feel free to share anything that you might find useful and interesting and worthwhile putting out into the pool of knowledge amongst men and women in their golden years.
Teile uns deine Weisheit, Deine Erfahrungen mit, was für andere in Bezug auf Liebe, Erotik und Sexualität wissenswert wäre, damit wir es mit anderen Menschen, die in ihrem goldenen Alter sind, auch teilen können.
If you are amongst the freethinkers, feel free to share any information that you might've gleaned from a life "outside the box."
Falls du zu jenen freien Menschen gehörst, der „außerhalb der Norm“ lebt, teile uns etwas von deinen kreativen und alternativen Lebenserfahrungen mit.
If your life has been more inside the box, what are some of your experiences and wisdoms that you wish to share.
Falls du zu den Menschen gehörst, die eher innerhalb der Normen leben, dann teile uns Deine Weisheiten mit.
I’m extraordinarily grateful for you to share as openly as you did, to help enlighten all our fellow baby boomers, going through this part of the golden years together, so that we may take these steps with great joy, and express our erotic energy, sensuality and love with joy and fulfillment.

Ich bin äußerst dankbar, dass du uns so offen und freizügig von deiner Weisheit und deiner Lebenserfahrung berichtet hast.
Ich hoffe es wird allen von uns, aus der Babyboomer Generation helfen, diesen Schritt in die Erotik, Sinnlichkeit und Liebe jenseits der Wechseljahre bewusst und mit Freude zu gehen.

Yours Ilona Selke
http://www.ilonaselke.com
Did you learn something about yourself in this process of writing about your sensuality?
Hast du etwas von dir / über dich durch diesen Prozess des Schreibens über deine Sinnlichkeit gelernt?

LETs TALK ABOUT IT - LASS UNS MAL DRÜBER REDEN

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